Works with
- Anger
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Parenting issues
- ADHD
How Barry works
Practical facts
- Credentials
- LMFT, LCMFT
- Licensed in
- Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas
- Years in practice
- 21
- Languages
- English
- Session format
- Online, through our partner platform
About Barry
Barry Plumlee is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 21 years of practice. He helps people manage stress, anger, anxiety, depression, and the fallout from trauma. He also supports parents navigating parenting and family challenges and those facing addiction or grief.
He uses a calm, down-to-earth style. Sessions focus on clear goals and practical steps chosen with the client. Conversations tend to be direct and respectful, aimed at reducing upsetting reactions and improving day-to-day functioning.
Background and approach
Barry draws on a mix of approaches including client-centered work, cognitive behavioral tools, and longer-term psychodynamic thinking. That means some sessions focus on current habits and coping skills, while others look at how past patterns influence present behavior. He can also incorporate motivational techniques to support change and the Gottman Method for relationship work when appropriate.
His background includes many years in community mental health and work with children and family services alongside adult and marital issues. This gives him experience with blended family concerns, adoption and foster care questions, first responder stress, and co-occurring problems like substance use and mood disorders. Sessions are offered by phone, video, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different schedules.
Evening appointments and Sunday afternoons are regularly available. He is licensed in Missouri as an LMFT and holds an LCMFT in Kansas.
What Barry works with
Everything Barry lists, in the therapist's own terms. Anger is the reason this directory exists; the rest tells you what usually sits alongside it in Barry's practice.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Parenting issues
- ADHD
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Sleeping disorders
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Bipolar disorder
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Adoption and foster care
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Blended family issues
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Hearing impaired
- Impulsivity
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Post-traumatic stress
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Young adult issues
Approaches Barry lists
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Gottman Method
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Systemic Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
How his approaches translate to online work
Barry often blends client-centered listening with cognitive behavioral techniques. Client-Centered Therapy is about listening closely and shaping sessions around what the client wants to address; it helps people feel understood and decide their next steps. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at thoughts and behaviors that keep problems going and teaches practical skills to change them, which is useful for anger, anxiety, and sleep issues.He usually approaches therapy as a collaborative process. Finding the right method is part of the work together. He reviews goals, trials different strategies, and adjusts plans so the approach matches the client’s needs and preferences.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is good for a traditional session feel and visual cues. Phone sessions work when bandwidth is limited or for a focused check-in. Live chat and text are helpful for brief check-ins, homework support, or when typing feels easier than speaking. These options make it easier to fit sessions into evenings and weekends without long travel.
Questions people ask about Barry
What concerns does Barry work on?
He helps people with stress, anger, anxiety, depression, trauma, parenting strains, relationship problems, addictions, grief, sleep troubles, and low self-esteem.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
Sessions are down-to-earth and goal oriented. He uses respectful, direct conversation to set practical steps and build coping skills.
What is his experience background?
He has 21 years of clinical experience, including community mental health and children and family services alongside adult and marital work.
What credentials and location are listed?
He holds LMFT and LCMFT credentials and practices in Missouri with licensure noted as MO LMFT and KS LCMFT.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats does he use?
He offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to match different needs and schedules.
How are costs and billing handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
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