Works with
- Anger
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Grief
- Depression
How Jamie works
Practical facts
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- California
- Years in practice
- 21
- Languages
- English
- Session format
- Online, through our partner platform
About Jamie
Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 21 years of clinical experience in California. He practices in a client-centered way that helps people feel heard, more grounded, and ready to speak honestly about what matters. Jamie emphasizes practical, manageable change rather than quick fixes.
He commonly supports people dealing with anger and stress, grief and loss, depression and anxiety, and difficulties related to addiction and impulse control.
Background and approach
He also helps with relationship concerns, intimacy questions, body image, and identity issues linked to LGBT experiences. Sessions often focus on what is happening in daily life and relationships, and on small steps that can make life easier. Jamie uses attachment-based ideas to look at how early relationships shape current patterns.
He draws on cognitive behavioral strategies to notice unhelpful thinking and try different responses. Dialectical behavior therapy skills are offered when emotional regulation and distress tolerance are priorities. He also brings emotionally-focused and client-centered approaches to sessions, so the work includes both feeling-based exploration and practical tools.
For addictions and impulse concerns he follows a harm reduction stance, meeting people where they are and aiming for change that fits their lives. Sessions are available in English and can be scheduled as video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. Getting started involves completing a short matching questionnaire and then scheduling a time that fits the client's needs.
What Jamie works with
Everything Jamie lists, in the therapist's own terms. Anger is the reason this directory exists; the rest tells you what usually sits alongside it in Jamie's practice.
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Grief
- Depression
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Family conflicts
- Intimacy-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexuality
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Jamie lists
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Gottman Method
- Imago Relationship Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
How therapeutic approaches translate online
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early relationships shape current patterns of closeness and safety. Online work can use conversations and reflective exercises to notice those patterns and rehearse new ways of connecting. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helps people identify unhelpful thoughts and try practical behavior experiments, which adapt well to video or messaging and can include homework between sessions. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers skills in emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness that are taught in short practices and real-time coaching during sessions.Finding the right approach is part of the process. The therapist will collaborate with each person to decide which methods fit their goals, needs, and comfort level. That discussion may shift over time as priorities change and progress is made.
Online formats - video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging - make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life. Video works well for face-to-face conversation and guided exercises. Phone sessions can be a good option when bandwidth is limited or the camera feels tiring. Live chat and text messaging allow shorter check-ins, ongoing support between longer sessions, and a flexible way to use skills when they are needed most.
Questions people ask about Jamie
What problems does Jamie help with?
He works with a wide range of concerns including anger, addictions, depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and intimacy issues, body image, and parenting stress.
What is the therapeutic style like?
Sessions are client-centered and practical, combining feeling-focused work with skills and behavioral experiments to address problems in daily life.
How much experience does this therapist have?
Jamie has 21 years of experience as a clinician in California, bringing long-term practice with addiction, relationship, and trauma-related concerns.
What credentials and location are listed?
He is an LMFT licensed in California and practices from that state.
Which languages are supported and can international clients be seen?
Sessions are offered in English and international clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are available?
Jamie offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to suit different schedules and communication preferences.
How is cost handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with this therapist?
Start by clicking the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.