Lani Stoner, LMFT

Based in California 27 years in practice Online sessions

Compassionate, practical therapy for everyday struggles

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How Lani works

Practical facts

Credentials: LMFT
Licensed in: California
Years in practice: 27
Languages: English
Session format: Online, through our partner platform

About Lani

Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 27 years of clinical experience. She helps people manage stress, anger, anxiety, grief, and life transitions. She offers straightforward support for depression, relationship concerns, parenting strain, and issues tied to trauma or chronic illness.

Her work favors focused, time-limited methods that aim to get practical results. Sessions are active and often involve setting clear goals, practicing new skills, and trying small changes between meetings.

Background and approach

She draws on approaches that help people change unhelpful thoughts, notice present-moment reactions, and tell more helpful stories about their lives. Lani’s career began in the mid 1970s after she earned a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology.

Much of her early work was in county and agency settings, including work with chronically mentally ill adults and later with children, adolescents, and older adults in independent practice. She has also volunteered and provided online support to military members, veterans, and their loved ones.

She has experience assisting people with complex health and life challenges, such as chronic pain, caregiver stress, fertility concerns, blended family issues, and grief after loss. She has worked with people who identify as LGBTQQIP2SAA and those coping with trauma from major events or abuse. Lani aims to help people move toward hope and better functioning in their daily lives.

Sessions are offered in English. Her practice is based in California and integrates practical tools with a warm, collaborative style. She encourages prospective clients to start with a brief matching questionnaire and a scheduled session to see if the fit feels right.

What Lani works with

Everything Lani lists, in the therapist's own terms. Anger is the reason this directory exists; the rest tells you what usually sits alongside it in Lani's practice.

Approaches Lani lists

Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.

Approaches for online work and practical change

Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening carefully and helping people feel heard so they can describe what matters most. It is useful when someone needs a steady space to sort feelings about relationships, parenting, or life transitions.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, teaches how thoughts, feelings, and actions connect and offers simple exercises to change unhelpful patterns. This approach can help with anxiety, anger, sleep issues, and mood shifts by practicing different ways of thinking and behaving.

Mindfulness Therapy trains attention to the present moment through brief practices and noticing reactions without judgment. It can be helpful for stress, emotional regulation, and coping with chronic pain or intrusive memories.

Choosing an approach happens together. The therapist will ask about goals, daily routines, and what has or hasn’t worked before. Then she and the client try methods that fit those goals and adjust as needed in follow-up sessions.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is helpful for a regular therapy rhythm and face-to-face conversation. Phone calls take less bandwidth and can fit during a break. Live chat and text-based messaging allow shorter check-ins and ongoing support between sessions. These options make it easier to fit care into work, family, and caregiving schedules.

Questions people ask about Lani

What concerns does she help with?

She works with stress, anger, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship and parenting strain, addictions, sleep problems, self-esteem, bipolar concerns, ADHD, and many life changes.

What is her therapy style like?

Lani uses an active, goal-focused style that often includes skill practice between sessions. She combines client-centered listening with cognitive, mindfulness, narrative, and solution-focused techniques.

How long has she practiced?

She has worked in mental health since the mid 1970s, giving her 27 years counted in her LMFT practice and decades of experience in agency and personal settings.

Where is she located and licensed?

She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California.

Which languages are supported?

Sessions are offered in English.

Can people outside the US work with her?

She does not accept international clients.

What session formats are available?

She provides video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to match different needs and schedules.

How are costs handled and how do I begin?

Costs vary with location and scheduling and use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time. To begin, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.