Nicole Thomte, LMFT
Compassionate therapist for diverse relationship and identity needs
Book with NicoleWorks with
- Anger
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Intimacy-related issues
- Self esteem
How Nicole works
Practical facts
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Licensed in
- Minnesota
- Years in practice
- 13
- Languages
- English
- Session format
- Online, through our partner platform
About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing from Minnesota. She brings 13 years of clinical experience and focuses on helping people who feel pushed outside mainstream expectations. Nicole uses a respectful, non-directive style and aims to create an affirming space for people from diverse backgrounds and identities.
Her approach leans on listening first and following the client’s lead. Nicole prefers solution-focused work while also drawing on client-centered and skills-based methods to reduce stress and manage strong emotions like anger or anxiety.
Background and approach
She values humor and practical problem solving alongside deeper reflection. Nicole has a long history working with people affected by trauma, chronic health concerns, and complex life stressors. She has experience supporting those navigating gender dysphoria, relationship structures outside monogamy, kink and BDSM communities, and the impacts of prejudice and discrimination.
She also addresses mood disorders, grief, and compassion fatigue. In sessions she pays attention to communication patterns, intimacy issues, and self-esteem concerns. Nicole uses elements from cognitive behavioral approaches and dialectical behavior strategies when helpful, and she can offer motivational interviewing and solution-focused techniques to set and reach goals.
Nicole aims to help clients build skills for managing mood shifts, coping with life changes, and improving relationship communication. Her work centers on respect for each person’s identity and choices, and on helping them find clearer paths forward in day-to-day life.
What Nicole works with
Everything Nicole lists, in the therapist's own terms. Anger is the reason this directory exists; the rest tells you what usually sits alongside it in Nicole's practice.
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Intimacy-related issues
- Self esteem
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Grief
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Gender dysphoria
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Sexuality
- Women's issues
Approaches Nicole lists
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Motivational Interviewing
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
How therapeutic approaches fit into online sessions
Client-centered therapy focuses on listening and reflecting what matters most to the person. It helps people feel heard and supports them in finding their own solutions when facing relationship, identity, or life-change stress.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors connect. It teaches practical skills to challenge unhelpful thinking and to reduce anxiety, panic, or low mood with specific exercises and homework.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, emphasizes emotional regulation and coping skills. It can be useful for managing intense anger, mood swings, and interpersonal conflict by teaching clear techniques for self-soothing and communication.
Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with people to choose methods that match their goals, preferences, and the issues they bring to sessions. This means trying things, checking what helps, and adjusting as needed.
Online therapy offers flexibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text messaging. Video allows face-to-face conversation; phone can be easier when bandwidth is limited or when someone needs a quick check-in. Live chat and text messaging let people share in shorter bursts or between appointments. These options make it easier to fit therapy into work, caregiving, or busy schedules while using the approaches described above.
Questions people ask about Nicole
What concerns does Nicole address?
She helps with stress, anxiety, anger, depression, bipolar mood concerns, grief, trauma, and self-esteem issues, plus relationship and intimacy challenges.
What is her therapy style like?
Nicole uses a non-directive, client-centered approach and often applies solution-focused techniques to find practical steps forward.
How much clinical experience does she have?
Nicole has 13 years of experience working in behavioral health settings and community-focused programs.
Where is she licensed and based?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed in Minnesota.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the U.S. work with her?
She does not work with international clients at this time.
What session formats are available?
Therapy is offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging.
How are fees and starting steps handled?
Cost varies with location and availability and uses a subscription that can be canceled at any time; begin by selecting Start Therapy, completing a short questionnaire, and scheduling a session.